This is an archived blog from when I ran Conscious Public Relations Inc. from 2008-2018. Excuse the potential outdated-ness!
Discovering self limitations
Leo and I are officially at the start of wedding planning. I met with my wedding planner friend yesterday and we have some ideas rolling. We don’t have an extravagant budget, so we know we will be cutting costs as much as possible and want to create memories more than waste or on unnecessary details. In these preliminary discussions, it’s become clear to me how much fear I have of the following:
1) Things going imperfectly
2) Disappointing others
I find myself already saying “but THIS would be better…” and we haven’t even started yet! I already know Leo is going to be a great husband because he holds the mirror up to myself and shows me my own sense of paranoia, and when I notice my voice starting to rise, he maintains his composure and patience and reiterates his point again. And again. And again!
We don’t have to agree but I still find it hard to be okay with disagreeing. I know that there is no need for things to look or be perfect. I know that the people that will be there to witness our marriage won’t care about the finer details. It’s nice to be reminded of that and I will probably need more constant reminding as time goes by, because we never learn these lessons only once.
Do you have life events or people who hold up that mirror and shine that light on those things you could work on?