This is an archived blog from when I ran Conscious Public Relations Inc. from 2008-2018. Excuse the potential outdated-ness!
Taking my own advice
At last night’s class I realized what a hypocrite I am.
One thing I am starting to notice more and more is how people complain about their situations. I’d like to help them with whatever it is they are complaining about, but I can’t help everyone. In addition, I want to tell them to stop and “take charge.” Perhaps I’ve felt like I’ve been taking charge of my life lately, and I feel that I am in a position to tell others to do so.
Cue a few days ago, when I walked in the front door to find Leo’s shoes right in front of the door. Who would do such a thing?! I thought. And, since I very clearly knew he was home, I proceeded to yell (as I would only do in my own home), “What’s up with these shoes right in front of the door?” I phrased it in the form of a question, as if there wasn’t a clue about who I was accusing.
I got my apology. But did I feel better? Not really. Because sometimes I get what I want, and then I get a bonus afterwards…guilt!
I realized that it was unnecessary to have whined about the shoes. I could have put them aside, and been on my way. But I took a one-off action that he did, made a problem out of it, and waited for a solution that didn’t really solve anything for me or for him.
Oh yes. I can point out complainers. You, and you, and you. Because I SO am one myself.
Bam! Take a good look in the mirror, Sandra. Shut up, take charge, and follow your own advice.
